I wanted to share my “personal k-drama” experience with you all. This is just some random insight on my interaction with a total FOB (fresh off the boat) Korean guy who has been living here for 8 months studying English. I have lots of Korean friends from Korea but they have lived here for a few years so communication is easy. A lot of you might not know this but I actually volunteer helping Korean students perfect their English skills. However this was the first time I’ve gone on a date with a Korean who is FOB. Sooo here we go with my observations and experiences!
Texting simple English is best because too much is like over load.
Honestly if I didn’t know as much Korean as I do, the whole communication situation would be extremely frustrating for both of us. We flip-flop back and forth between English and Korean pretty much during every conversation.
Just like you see the Idols getting extremely shy when they are complimented so does he ^_^
Yes he likes it when I say “oppa”.
Koreans have a thing with comparing girls to animals; remember Heechul saying that one chick looked like a poodle because she had curly hair? Well I was told I have eyes like a Shih Tzu
- The size of my eyes are a big deal to him. He loves that I have double lids and that they are “doll-like” along with being similar to a dogs -_-
As if you havent already realized Koreans like good skin. He talked about my skin ALOT and even rested his hand beside mine and said we are about the same color but that I’m only a little darker. It was so random yes, but honestly it wasnt about the color of my skin as much as it was about the condition of my skin. No matter what “shade” you are just take care of it. Keep it smooth and looking fresh! We actually did talk about face masks and what not. It was somewhat weird how he noticed things dare I say American guys don’t reallllly notice.
You know how in dramas they are dominant? Well he was no different telling me the night BEFORE the date to only look at him. He refused to acknowledge status not because he’s in America but because he likes me, so there is no way he’s calling me “noona”.However I continued to remind him kindly that he is my dongsaeng by using “ah” at the end of his name which is what you say when someone is younger than you. Older is “shi” for reference. (Hey you gotta put a guy in check some how rightt?!)
We’re all familiar with the Korean weight loss nonsense right? Well of course he sat there and explained that he wants to lose weight because he’s getting fat; meanwhile he’s tall (6 feet actually) and slim but has good thighs and arms and a totally defined Jaw line. Sooo I had to let him know he was talking crazy and that he should actually eat a burger.
You know the stalker-ish/obsessive personality traits the men in dramas seem to have? Well he was no exception. Last friday is when we exchanged numbers. Friday night is when the texting began and has not stopped. It’s actually overwhelming especially because he is really open about his feelings. On my date he told me that he wants me to see him “as a man” and then he said he liked me in Korean (MAJOR K-DRAMA MOMENT). He’s already planning skype conversations when he goes back to Korea, Bike riding along the Han River when I visit in the summer, wanting me to date only him when I actually move to Korea which is a freakin year and a half away! Me getting along with his unnie and oh the best one was he doesn’t want me going to Ktown anymore because there are too many Korean guys there. Totally k-drama leading guy out of control intense activity going on!! BTW I’m not going to sit here and say that’s how every single Korean guy is because it’s not, but it is actually common so be prepared!
So what I realized is..yes alot of the cliché’s about what they like are true. Those “k-drama moments” we all love are actually weird and awkward even overwhelming at times. Over all it was fun and I’ll keep seeing him till he goes back to Korea which is at the end of January. However I’ll keep going to Ktown and I will not be looking only at him. Also he wanted my twitter and even a link to the blog PSSHH YAHHH RIGHT WITH THAT MESS! Funny thing though, you all know how I’m Team Kim Hyun Joong/Jae Joong? Well he’s Team Rain! He freakin loves Rain….go figure!
Anyone else have a similar experience with an Asian guy?
K-Kisses! KrisE (Personal KPOP Radio:SNSD ‘The Boys’)
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