Beautiful AM/BW Couple Alert! 1-7-12

Ladies, ladies, ladies! Check out the lastest beautiful AM/BW couple to get in touch with BWLB to have their story told! This is the story of Nina and Alan Cardinez, a couple who started out as best friends, lost touch after high school, but seven years later, happened to run into other. Since then, they have been inseparable.

Nina says, “I just felt the need to email you and say thanks for what your doing! I have never come across anything like this that helps to expose these relationships. My husband and I have been married now for almost 6 years and it was rough from the beginning to be accepted as a couple.. But here we are still together standing strong and happy as a family despite the discrimination and small talk of others. We also have a beautiful 3 year old son named Anthony. I’d like to say that no matter what people say and no matter how hard they try to break you apart, your heart has the answers. Love does not see color, when love is meant to be it will conquer all. I’m blessed to say that me and my husband have done that, and I thank God everyday for my family :).

No, Nina, there is no need to thank me. 🙂 I, on the behalf of BWLB and its readers, thank you for sharing your story and words of encouragement! We wish you and your family the best!

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Real Asian Men Dont Come with English Subtitles Part IV The Final Episode

New reader? Catch up on Parts 1 -3 here…

Have you ever felt like you were having a total out-of-body experience? One of those days where you were just walking thru life seeing all the activities going on even participating in them but not really feeling the effects of them?

Thats how I would describe this entire experience with this guy. Maybe it was because I knew I would be telling you all about it that I observed more than I “felt”. The only thing I felt was the shock of him telling me he loved me that night. It was way too much especially since it was only our 2nd date! What could I do?! What could I even say to that?! He had really put me in an awkward position.

Of course I freaked out right there on the street and literally screamed, not really screamed but it was louder than my usual conversation voice “WHAT DO YOU MEANNNN YOU LOVE ME! YOU BARELY KNOW ME!!!! Now I usually consider my life somewhat similar to the Twilight Zone where nothing in it really makes sense and I over the years have come to terms with that, but this just really threw me! He literally stood there and made mee seem like I was the crazy one. According to him what was the big deal? He loves me that’s how he feels so I should just accept and go along with it. What the Frek!? And then to make matters worse he hugged me and finally I understood that weird ass K-Drama one-sided hug! You know where the guy hugs the girl and she just stands there frozen with her arms to the side while he’s just oozing with emotion?! I totally did just that. So um obviously the parting wasnt that smooth and I went home totally unsure about everything. Of course he sent me texts that night and the next morning I was just angry.

I was so angry and frustrated because this wasnt what I wanted. Why was he ignoring my requests for friendship?? Why wasnt he considering he still had feelings for his ex girlfriend he hadn’t seen in 8 months?? And why does this have to be such a K-DRAMA?! Instead of me playing the role as “the other girl” why couldn’t it be a normal love triangle where I the lead girl got to choose from 2 hot guys?! I was sooo over this, it wasnt fun anymore, it was just annoying me. That night on the phone he was soo happy and couldn’t stop talking about our date and how much he missed me blah, blah, gush gush.

I on the other hand had a miserable tone, was totally uninterested in his conversation and he called me out on it. What a strange moment; here I was on the phone with a good-looking FOB Korean guy who totally adored me, who yes I did like to an extent but was just uninterested in. He told me to go to sleep and that I’d feel better in the morning and have more reasonable thoughts -_- Noo but ok fine I went to bed and the next day was the ending. I suppose my reaction and rejection of his feelings got him thinking about his ex in Korea and on the phone he asked if we could just be friends because he missed her. I said fine and hung up but found myself crying for maybe just 2 minutes (literally). I wasnt sad that it was over so quickly I was more like totally pissed off how careless he was with words. It was tooo easy for him to say he just wanted to be friends you know what I mean? Plus there was that whole “entitlement” part of his personality that really set me off. Do you know after he said he wanted to be friends he had the NERVE to say he still wanted to see me because he’s really happy when he’s with me!

Look here’s the thing and I’ve mentioned it before; him and I share the same friends back in Korea so it’s not like I’ll never see him again but he really lost my trust. Like is your nickname Jekyll and Hyde?! How is it one day you supposedly love me and the next you are tooo cool about being just friends? How exactly does that work? It would have been a lot better if he would have just agreed with me from the beginning that he was still into his ex instead of trying so hard to convince me otherwise. Good thing I’m way toooo much of a player myself to fall for that nonsense ^_^

Anywayz these days we don’t talk much although every so often like once or twice a week he will call or text asking to see me and I always decline. Although I’ll see him around in Korea because of our friends I don’t feel the need to see him while he’s here. He deserves to be ignored and you know why? Because a guy I don’t care who he is, how he looks,or how you feel about him; he cannot just say whatever he wants and play with your emotions. Had I actually “liked” this guy and wanted to be with him I would have totally been crushed. So no he doesnt deserve to hang with me or even have an actual conversation with me until I decide he’s worth associating with. Instead I’m thinking about the next guy who I want. This time even cuter more flower boy than beast Idol because I’m more attracted to that look and of course who comes totally single and ready to mingle! ^_^

K-Kisses! KrisE ( Personal KPOP Radio: Aziatix ‘GO’)

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Incredibly Insightful Tips on Making an AMBW Relationship Last

For those of us who are searching for the ideal Asian guy partner, what refreshing insight given in the video clip below by Icysparks2007 on making AMBW relationships last! What I love about Icysparks2007’s perspective is that he is honest, yet positive. Thanks Icysparks2007! 🙂

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Real Asian Men Dont Come with English Subtitles Pt lll

New reader? Check out Parts 1 and 2 linked below ^_^

So I’m guessing everyone has been curiously awaiting this post since I left off right when he called me at midnight.

 

Him: Hey are you awake? I need to talk to you.

Me:Duh I’m awake if I’m answering your calllll, what is it? (said in Korean)

Him: Aigoo (yah he really said that) don’t be that way listen. I did a lot of thinking and I was wrong, I was really selfish and I’m sorry and I miss you so much.

Me: really? Ok. ( I seriously didn’t know what to say considering I didn’t think it was a big deal anyway so I decided to drag it out..meanwhile I was still watching Jae Joong on YouTube so my focus was else where ^_^ )

Him: Dont be mad anymore ok? I wanna see you.

Me: I’m not freakin mad and um before I decide to see you I need to talk to you about some things. For one stop trying to tell me what to do especially since you’re not my bf. I don’t like it; I obviously don’t listen to you so just stop. Also we don’t have to text ALL THE TIME. Calm down with all that pleaseeee!

Well we continued to discuss how American girls for the most part don’t appreciate being damn near stalked and being told what to do all the time. I stuck with his plan of picking me up after my lesson and I have to say he did listen. During the week he really didn’t text as much as he was previously. It was still excessive according to normal standards but it was an improvement. He only sort of relaxed with the dominant thing but not quite; however I seemed to have gotten use to it and he seemed to have gotten used to me talking back and not listening. We developed our own form of communication.

He’s def on the insecure side considering the fact I’d talk about something like a new hairstyle or whatever and he would respond with “You’re pretty enough” Uhh ok? What exactly does that mean sir? o_0 Basically he explained that I was already too pretty for him and I dont need to be any prettier. Seriously a lot of these Koreans and their low self-esteem, insecurity and self-hatred just urk me. However even though I’m “pretty enough” that doesn’t stop him from saying things like…

“Dont eat ramen a lot, you’ll get fat”

“Dont wear your makeup for too many hours, you’ll mess up your skin”

“Wear your hair tied back so you can look really beautiful”

” I like your natural curl hair (not curly but “curl” so FOB cute!) wear it that way not straight all the time”

Like O.M.G! Dude stay out of my beauty business worry about YOUR look and only appreciate mine THANKS!

Friday night 7pm he was there to pick me up and we shared ramen and both ordered bubble tea..I had Milk Black tea and he had Taro. I loved it because he did exactly what I want my future Idol boyfriend to do! He wanted us to order the bubble tea because the cup it came in was soooo super cute! Ha! He even said if I put my hair up in two buns I’d look just like the little cartoon.I beg to totally differ I do not look like that little girl -_-

After dinner we walked arm and arm towards Times Square and then it happened! While waiting for the street light to change he looked right at me and STOLE OUR FIRST KISS!  I was seriously shocked and pushed him away calling him a “Kiss Stealing Slut!” And in true K-Drama fashion he grinned, walked right up to me with his tall 6 foot,  2PM Junsu looking self rocking his black baseball cap, skinny jeans and Goo Joon Pyo style black pea coat with the fur collar pulled me in and KISSED ME AGAIN! His lips truly like pillows…his kiss seriously soft, gentle and OMG he can kiss! I was like OMO!

The rest of the night we spent at the M&M store in Times Square where we looked at pajama bottoms and he decided that one day we’ll get “couples pajamas”.I took pics of him with M&M dolls and of course he gave the “peace” sign in every pic. We went to L’Occitane where we sprayed each other with perfume decided on which scent best suited me…The almond oil topped with the Rose perfume if your curious ^_^ At a nearby lounge we indulged in cocktails and beer, we sat super close, he asked if I was wearing circle lenses and had plastic surgery..uh no and no. He has an obsession with my features as I’ve said before. We shared kisses and stories and he asked to be my boyfriend once again.

I felt like someone was shining a hot light on me. Seriously whyyy does he keep asking me?! I even told him straight out at one point that I have commitment issues. I’m the type who always drops one guy when another one better comes along. I mean how does that make me look like girlfriend material in his eyes?! Sooo what was I suppose to say? What was I suppose to do?! He was totally killing my drinking buzz so with another gulp of beer I turned to him, took his hands in mine, gazed into his eyes and said.. “Oppa..we dont need to label this. The way it is right now is just fine..lets just have fun and go with the flow because it’s so good right now.” Once again there was that ” oh this is American Style” response from him -_- Suuuree yeah ok but NO. Well that seemed to work for the moment except the most unexpected thing happened right after we left. Before we parted ways we were standing on the sidewalk talking and suddenly without any kind of warning what so ever he said…”Saranghae”

To be continued…

K-Kisses! KrisE (Personal KPOP Radio: JYJ ‘Found You’)

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Crossing Lines: This AM/BW Documentary Needs You!

Sweet!! There is an awesome documentary in the works, and you can be part of its production! I’ve literally ripped the synopsis from the youtube page:

“CROSSING LINES: A Real View Into AM/BW” takes a look into REAL relationships in the modern age – where cross-cultural love between Asian Men and Black Women blossoms and ignites both on and off-screen.

Submit your info to AMBW.weebly.com to participate in this documentary:
– Couples & Families
– Seekers/Singles
– Original AM/BW Art
– AM/BW or Interracial Opponents
– DONATIONS!

In the word of Kim Hyun Joong in “Breakdown” intro: “LET’S DO THIS!” Come on you, guys, let’s support this documentary and contribute as much as we can to make it the best it can be and spread the AM/BW love!

Thanks so much to Laurnea for the tip!

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Real Asian Men Dont Come with English Subtitles

I wanted to share my “personal k-drama” experience with you all. This is just some random insight on my interaction with a total FOB (fresh off the boat) Korean guy who has been living here for 8 months studying English. I have lots of Korean friends from Korea but they have lived here for a few years so communication is easy. A lot of you might not know this but I actually volunteer helping Korean students perfect their English skills. However this was the first time I’ve gone on a date with a Korean who is FOB. Sooo here we go with my observations and experiences!

Texting simple English is best because too much is like over load.

Honestly if I didn’t know as much Korean as I do, the whole communication situation would be extremely frustrating for both of us. We flip-flop back and forth between English and Korean pretty much during every conversation.

Just like you see the Idols getting extremely shy when they are complimented so does he ^_^

Yes he likes it when I say “oppa”.

Koreans have a thing with comparing girls to animals; remember Heechul saying that one chick looked like a poodle because she had curly hair? Well I was told I have eyes like a Shih Tzu

  • The size of my eyes are a big deal to him. He loves that I have double lids and that they are “doll-like” along with being similar to a dogs -_-

As if you havent already realized Koreans like good skin. He talked about my skin ALOT and even rested his hand beside mine and said we are about the same color but that I’m only a little darker. It was so random yes, but honestly it wasnt about the color of my skin as much as it was about the condition of my skin. No matter what “shade” you are just take care of it. Keep it smooth and looking fresh! We actually did talk about face masks and what not. It was somewhat weird how he noticed things dare I say American guys don’t reallllly notice.

You know how in dramas they are dominant? Well he was no different telling me the night BEFORE the date to only look at him. He refused to acknowledge status not because he’s in America but because he likes me, so there is no way he’s calling me “noona”.However I continued to remind him kindly that he is my dongsaeng by using “ah” at the end of his name which is what you say when someone is younger than you. Older is “shi” for reference. (Hey you gotta put a guy in check some how rightt?!)

We’re all familiar with the Korean weight loss nonsense right? Well of course he sat there and explained that he wants to lose weight because he’s getting fat; meanwhile he’s tall (6 feet actually) and slim but has good thighs and arms and a totally defined Jaw line. Sooo I had to let him know he was talking crazy and that he should actually eat a burger.

You know the stalker-ish/obsessive personality traits the men in dramas seem to have? Well he was no exception. Last friday is when we exchanged numbers. Friday night is when the texting began and has not stopped. It’s actually overwhelming especially because he is really open about his feelings. On my date he told me that he wants me to see him “as a man” and then he said he liked me in Korean (MAJOR K-DRAMA MOMENT). He’s already planning skype conversations when he goes back to Korea, Bike riding along the Han River when I visit in the summer, wanting me to date only him when I actually move to Korea which is a freakin year and a half away! Me getting along with his unnie and oh the best one was he doesn’t want me going to Ktown anymore because there are too many Korean guys there. Totally k-drama leading guy out of control intense activity going on!! BTW I’m not going to sit here and say that’s how every single Korean guy is because it’s not, but it is actually common so be prepared!

So what I realized is..yes alot of the cliché’s about what they like are true. Those “k-drama moments” we all love are actually weird and awkward even overwhelming at times. Over all it was fun and I’ll keep seeing him till he goes back to Korea which is at the end of January. However I’ll keep going to Ktown and I will not be looking only at him. Also he wanted my twitter and even a link to the blog PSSHH YAHHH RIGHT WITH THAT MESS! Funny thing though, you all know how I’m Team Kim Hyun Joong/Jae Joong? Well he’s Team Rain! He freakin loves Rain….go figure!

Anyone else have a similar experience with an Asian guy?

K-Kisses! KrisE (Personal KPOP Radio:SNSD ‘The Boys’)

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[M/V] Toshi Kubota – Breaking Through

Mr. Toshinobu Kubota is a 49-year-old Japanese soul singer hailing from Shizuoka, Japan. “Breaking Though”, released in 2004 on “Time To Share”, was his third album effort to break into the U.S. market. Since I had never heard of Kubota san since a few years ago (and through Youtube searches, no less), I am lead to believe that his efforts to break into the U.S. market did not go so well. The name of the song could also refer to what seems to be an interracial relationship. What do you think?

I feel that he sings with feeling, and to me that is the most important aspect of being an artist sharing his craft with the world. He also puts me in the mind of one of my favourite soul/r&b groups The Stylistics. Besides the fact that he sings soul/r&b, I appreciate his choice of love interest in “Breaking Through”‘s music video. 🙂 I was concerned if Kubota san is still releasing albums, and thankfully, according to Wikipedia, he has for the past years since “Time To Share”, the latest of which being “Gold Skool”, released August 3, 2011. I will be up late downloading tonight 😉 Check out the latest release from that album here.