Real Asian Men Dont Come with English Subtitles Part IV The Final Episode

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Have you ever felt like you were having a total out-of-body experience? One of those days where you were just walking thru life seeing all the activities going on even participating in them but not really feeling the effects of them?

Thats how I would describe this entire experience with this guy. Maybe it was because I knew I would be telling you all about it that I observed more than I “felt”. The only thing I felt was the shock of him telling me he loved me that night. It was way too much especially since it was only our 2nd date! What could I do?! What could I even say to that?! He had really put me in an awkward position.

Of course I freaked out right there on the street and literally screamed, not really screamed but it was louder than my usual conversation voice “WHAT DO YOU MEANNNN YOU LOVE ME! YOU BARELY KNOW ME!!!! Now I usually consider my life somewhat similar to the Twilight Zone where nothing in it really makes sense and I over the years have come to terms with that, but this just really threw me! He literally stood there and made mee seem like I was the crazy one. According to him what was the big deal? He loves me that’s how he feels so I should just accept and go along with it. What the Frek!? And then to make matters worse he hugged me and finally I understood that weird ass K-Drama one-sided hug! You know where the guy hugs the girl and she just stands there frozen with her arms to the side while he’s just oozing with emotion?! I totally did just that. So um obviously the parting wasnt that smooth and I went home totally unsure about everything. Of course he sent me texts that night and the next morning I was just angry.

I was so angry and frustrated because this wasnt what I wanted. Why was he ignoring my requests for friendship?? Why wasnt he considering he still had feelings for his ex girlfriend he hadn’t seen in 8 months?? And why does this have to be such a K-DRAMA?! Instead of me playing the role as “the other girl” why couldn’t it be a normal love triangle where I the lead girl got to choose from 2 hot guys?! I was sooo over this, it wasnt fun anymore, it was just annoying me. That night on the phone he was soo happy and couldn’t stop talking about our date and how much he missed me blah, blah, gush gush.

I on the other hand had a miserable tone, was totally uninterested in his conversation and he called me out on it. What a strange moment; here I was on the phone with a good-looking FOB Korean guy who totally adored me, who yes I did like to an extent but was just uninterested in. He told me to go to sleep and that I’d feel better in the morning and have more reasonable thoughts -_- Noo but ok fine I went to bed and the next day was the ending. I suppose my reaction and rejection of his feelings got him thinking about his ex in Korea and on the phone he asked if we could just be friends because he missed her. I said fine and hung up but found myself crying for maybe just 2 minutes (literally). I wasnt sad that it was over so quickly I was more like totally pissed off how careless he was with words. It was tooo easy for him to say he just wanted to be friends you know what I mean? Plus there was that whole “entitlement” part of his personality that really set me off. Do you know after he said he wanted to be friends he had the NERVE to say he still wanted to see me because he’s really happy when he’s with me!

Look here’s the thing and I’ve mentioned it before; him and I share the same friends back in Korea so it’s not like I’ll never see him again but he really lost my trust. Like is your nickname Jekyll and Hyde?! How is it one day you supposedly love me and the next you are tooo cool about being just friends? How exactly does that work? It would have been a lot better if he would have just agreed with me from the beginning that he was still into his ex instead of trying so hard to convince me otherwise. Good thing I’m way toooo much of a player myself to fall for that nonsense ^_^

Anywayz these days we don’t talk much although every so often like once or twice a week he will call or text asking to see me and I always decline. Although I’ll see him around in Korea because of our friends I don’t feel the need to see him while he’s here. He deserves to be ignored and you know why? Because a guy I don’t care who he is, how he looks,or how you feel about him; he cannot just say whatever he wants and play with your emotions. Had I actually “liked” this guy and wanted to be with him I would have totally been crushed. So no he doesnt deserve to hang with me or even have an actual conversation with me until I decide he’s worth associating with. Instead I’m thinking about the next guy who I want. This time even cuter more flower boy than beast Idol because I’m more attracted to that look and of course who comes totally single and ready to mingle! ^_^

K-Kisses! KrisE ( Personal KPOP Radio: Aziatix ‘GO’)

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Date Week with DBSK!

Ohhh yeah! I finally brought “Date Week” back and doing it big with DBSK! Now look I KNOW they aren’t together anymore but it makes sense just to group them as one for this instead of having two different date weeks sooo just deal with it k? Besides, all you DBSK fans out there wish they were back together anyway. Now that we have that out of the way if you were given a chance to date each member at the same time, what day of the week would each one get and what would you do with them or to them…I wont judge you ^_^

Monday: Changmin

Ehh what can I say? Changmin really doesn’t do it for me. There is def a certain topic I wont mention here that Ide like to chat with him about (haha inside info btwn him and I) but that’s about it. Maybe we can find a hobby together, like umm painting those weird little white clay statue things. I have a feeling he would enjoy that.


Tuesday: Junsu

Junsu is sooo not my style let me just totally put it out there right now. His facial features aren’t as defined as I like but of course that’s me being picky and shallow as usual. However I love his smile and his laugh plus his personality is totally sweet. Soo Ide like to spend my time with him at an arcade getting crazy competitive, eating cotton candy; the blue one cuz although the pink is pretty the blue is ultra yummy!


Wednesday: Micky Yoochun

I consider Micky “Average Asian” and BOAB has argued with me way toooo many times over this.Look hes totally cute BUT average looking; I mean can’t you just see him workin in your office or strollin down the street texting passing you by?!? He just doesn’t scream Idol to me no matter how many weird hair cuts they give him! So for our date let’s go grocery shopping…No for serious I think grocery shopping with a guy is fun and it would be interesting to see what he picks out and makes me put back.


 

 

Thursday: Yunho

Ugh Yunho is just too cute. He makes my list of “arm candy”  I really don’t want to do anything with him but walk around. I know he’s athletic and into working out but I’m not about to run out on a field or anything like that. However we can totally hit the gym together and while I walk on the treadmill boppin to music from other KPOP groups I’ll just stare at him while he glistens of sweat…sounds like good times right!?

 


 

Friday and Forever After: KIM JAEJOONG!

I don’t even have to explain because you all know I seriously love this guy. I mean him and I are so alike, we’re both really cute people, have some what manic personalities etc. I feel like we would have couples clothing and share makeup. We could buy a new kitten who would be bilingual and its name could be “KrisEro” (Kris + Hero duhhh!). It would be totally awesome! Sooo Friday night can be spent planning couples activities while he teaches me to cook something he really likes!

K-Kisses! KrisE (Personal KPOP Radio:DBSK ‘Mirotic’)

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Are You Really an Equal Opportunity Dater?

 I’ve seriously lost my mind. It’s totally gone, I see it running down the street and OMO! It’s totally out of view..Oh wellll. LOOK! I’ve just been pushed over the edge by the HOTTEST fan appreciation video ever created which b.t.w inspired this post! I know many of you out there are all like “Oh I love Asian guys but I’m all about equal opportunity blah, blah” Whatevs! I spend waayy too much time fangirling out and focusing on Asians to even glance in another direction. I’m being serious here and I want you all to be open to what I’m about to say.

I personally adore the look of Asians so much that no one else even compares. There’s no way I’m gonna sit here and say I’m all about equal opportunity when I know for shizzle that if I’m with a non-Asian, I’m gonna be looking for and wanting an Asian guy instead. Besides, how can I lay snuggled in my bed at night watching gorgeous Asian leading men and wake up to songs sung by gorgeous Asian Idols and then hang with someone who is not the object of my desire? Isnt that doing a serious injustice to myself and to the guy? Plus I’m a pretty shallow person (I’m totally content with being this way) and the way I see it; being mixed myself and then tossing in some Asian flavor would give me pretty doll looking children and since I adore anything “pretty” and “doll-like” it only makes sense to think this way. This is true when I say the moment I got hooked on Korean culture and Korean guys I dropped the guys I was dating real quick  because they were no longer interesting or attractive to me.

Now I’m trying to figure out why some of you are all about equality. Obviously there are those who literally just appreciate Asian guys and culture and that’s totally cool. Maybe some of you live in an area where the odds of spotting an Asian are similar to spotting a UFO. But what about the rest of you? I seriously cant be the only one…riiight? 0_o

Oh and the video that made me spaz was of my precious Alien looking pet Jae Joong. Just watch the video and try to remember to breathe.

K-Kisses! KrisE (Personal KPOP Radio: DBSK ‘Balloons’)

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Can You Really Handle a Femme Asian Man?

Ever since I fell for Kim Heechul of Super Junior about 2 weeks ago or so I’ve been wondering about something. You know how most of our Idols act very femme and uhh suspect? They openly express their love of the color pink (Heechul) Hello Kitty (Jae Joong) carry around journals with smiling teddy bears (Mir). Many of them have girly stuffed animals littered around their dorm apartments and on their beds. They get as excited as any girl over really cute things. They even worry about being seen on camera without their “makeup”. I mean I was watching some reality show with MBLAQ and freakin Mir and Lee Joon are sitting there holding hands like they were all coupled up.

I get that a lot of it is culture but they are soooo different from the guys we’re use to so I’m wondering if you all are accepting this because they are Asian men and Asian Idols on top of that? Would all that femme acting fly over here? (Uh I’m not saying EVERY Asian guy acts this way, but I’m just referring to those who do) I personally like it a lot. I like the idea of having a pretty boyfriend who gets just as excited as I do over cute things. I feel like it would deepen our bond; we could go shopping together and really be each others best friends. Seriously though I look at all the guys videos and their clothes and think “Oh that’s so cute I gotta pick that top up or those pants would look so good on me!!” I was in a store earlier today in the juniors section and got really excited to find a sweater that looked JUST LIKE Taemins top in the “Hello” MV; you know the black sweater with the sparkles on it and he paired it with black leather skinny pants! (Ok small confession I do tend to dress and style myself like an Idol because its hot so whatevs to the haterz! ^_^ )

Anyway would you be able to actually handle if the Asian man you fall for turns out to be just as femme or more so than your favorite Idols?

K-Kisses! KrisE (Personal KPOP Radio: T-MAX ‘Paradise’)


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More Black and Asian Lovin’!

More declarations of Asian men who love Black women! This is what I’m talking about! Yes, these guys REALLY DO EXIST!! Yes, there are Asian men out there who really do love and prefer Black women!! I received an email from a young Black woman who was curious to know if I was embarrassed that my whole blog was dedicated to men who don’t find Black women attractive. I hope she is still reading my blog, and I hope that she sees this post. It’s simple: the more and more we express our appreciation for Asian men, the more Asian men will reciprocate, because they do and have always felt the same way! Don’t believe the media and don’t believe the hype that Black women are destined to be alone and that everyone finds them ugly and unattractive. It’s just not true! Check out the video clip below. There’s your proof!

Which Blaqie Would Make You Stay?

This is one of the most adorable clips I’ve ever seen. What would each of the Mblaq members (besides our dear country boy Cheolyong aka Mir) do or say to make you stay as his girlfriend? Their styles are so different and unique to their own personalities. And if you can’t fathom such a thing, this is just a good watch. Enjoy! 🙂

Telisha Shaw: Our Secret

There are some really hateful, mean-spirited people out there, regardless of race and nationality. K-pop fandom is not safe from these people, and lately, with the rumors of love between Telisha Shaw and Junsu of JYJ increasing, these hateful people have really started to come out of the woodworks. Their hatefullness is not just spurned from jealousy, but from racism. For too long, Black women have been considered the lowest of the low, the bottom of the barrel, and the least desirable women in the world. Even our own men seem to not want us sometimes. We all know its not true, but it hurts.

So what happens when a beautiful Black woman comes along, and steals the heart of a non-Black man who is beloved by many women (of all races) in the world? Of course, there will be jealousy; the typical kind between two women that are fighting over the same man. But the jealousy becomes laced with racism, the kind with the underlying concept of “but wait, she’s Black! You’re not supposed to like her because she’s Black! She’s not as good as me because (insert superficial, physical reason based on color or stereotypes here)! I’m better than her!” That is what happens. This beautiful, attractive, smart and totally worthy Black woman becomes reduced to becoming a receptacle of hateful, racist remarks and death threats. Really??? Are we still living in a world like this? Apparently so.

What I like about Telisha is that she is not about to take this lying down. Instead, she’s come up with her own nifty PR, and I couldn’t be more thrilled to share it with all of you in this post. It is her recently released song “Our Secret”, and you are more than willing to come to your own conclusion as to what and whom she is referring to 😉 Some say she’s trolling, others say she’s on to something. You decide!

Thanks to AJ for the vid tip!