Have you ever heard that quote? “I’ll only look at you”…It’s been said over and over in various Kdramas. How it’s said varies. Sometimes the guy will forcefully grab the girl and scream “Look only at me!” or sometimes he’ll be gentle, get on one knee, gaze into her eyes and say in a soft uber romantic tone “from now on, I’ll only look at you”. We all know or at least I hope we all know kdramas are fantasies that pull perfectly at a woman’s heartstrings.But is your attraction to your favorite Idols and leading men beginning to change the outlook of your reality? Are Asian men now your only dating preference? How far are you going to snag one so that you too can one day be told “I’ll only look at you”?
whatthefrell says: October 4, 2011 at 9:49 pm
“They say I look really young for my age. You know… black don’t crack and all. These are friends that say that, it’s unsolicited, surely they can’t all be lying all the time; I mean I’m never looking to get my ego boosted… although I do come across as a bit sad sometimes. If I do, it’s probably because I am incredibly immature.Well anyways, I am counting on that; ‘cuz when I do make it to Korea,I will be wanting to spend some time on K-pop row.I feel the younger everyone thinks I am, the less I’ll appear like a stalker. I’m allowed to pretend, right?”
Whatthefrell actually got me thinking and although she was referring to not looking like a stalker (lol b.t.w) it made me think about other stuff. I can honestly say I’ve become hyperaware of the standards of beauty in Korea. Obviously to each their own when it comes to attraction but I feel it would be unrealistic to not consider Koreas beauty standards. Obviously I want an Idol to call my own ( Kim Hyun Joong, Jae Joong, Hyun Bin!!!) but I will happily accept a normal Korean guy who meets Idol look standards (Not apologizing for what I prefer and want). But what about that little voice! You know the one that questions your sanity and choices? The one that asks “will he really want youuu?” Better yet the thought of travelling to a country with such a different standard of beauty, how exactly will it be to walk down KPOP row? So my question is, are any of you out there thinking the same way? Are any of you taking any type of measures to attract an Asian guy or if not what do you think of the idea? I’ll let you all in on my world for a moment.
For starters I have been living on the treadmill. I slather on face creams and moisturizer. Every morning I paint my face to look flawless(although right now i have a bump on my cheek I swear some type of vicious creature bit me,aish!!!). I think of a doll at all times and dust my cheeks in rose-colored blush. I change my eye shape with skillfully applied false lashes and coat jet black mascara over them to give myself a wide-eyed appearance. I give my lips a flushed pink hue and dab just the right amount of tinted colored gloss on for a poutier look. I dye my hair jet black and carefully clip in 18-20 inch extensions. I enter society as a walking question mark. My ethnic background is for the most part undetectable and highly questionable.
For my trip to Korea I’ve decided on longer extensions, microdermabrasion, filler for the 3 fine lines under my eyes and a lip injection to have a poutier look. All this so I can look refreshed and younger looking than I do now. It may seem abit extreme to some, but for me it’s justs like shopping for new clothes.
Now let me be REAL clear here as clear as crystal. My routine is normal I’ve been doing it for years it has nothing to do with wanting to attract an Asian guy although I feel its coming in handy. Now the filler and all that other stuff which involves a trip to the world of plastic does, and I’m just being honest.
Now I’m sure everyone is thinking its the inside of a person that matters most and I agree. However lets not be completely in denial here; the way you look is the first thing anyone notices unless you’re being a total creeper and coming up behind someone yelling and they have no choice but to notice the nonsense spewing from your mouth. But do you think being women of color wanting an Asian guy, there’s this invisible added pressure to appear as appealing and put together as possible?
AHEM…Now that you’ve finished reading, this post may have come across as slightly shallow but at times I am very shallow so that I wont apologize for. What I will say is my discussion posts come from my thoughts and I don’t edit or sugar coat them ever. Whether or not you have seen Asians with women or color I don’t think it puts the insecure thoughts about acceptance to rest. So be free, open and honest and let me know your opinions!