Simple. We don’t speak our object of affections’ language. Pure and simple. To learn their language is to level the playing field. It has nothing to do with color, with height or weight, nationality or ethnicity. While It is true that love, attraction, culture and location are contributing factors to a successful relationship with a foreign person, if you can speak the same language as someone, I believe it is the most important step in getting to know them. The real them, not the surface them. And that is why the Korean fans are not worried when their boys venture out of South Korea to other countries, such as the States or Europe. Case in point in the video clip below (starting @ 10:08):
Sad, isn’t it? It’s obvious why these women were picked: they are foreign, but most importantly: they can’t speak a lick of Korean. NOW, I am aware that most “reality” tv shows are in fact, not reality, and scripted to the last T. In the comments, someone pointed out that in order for these women to even have been accepted into Seoul University, they must have a command of the Korean language. It is required of all foreigners. So, I do believe these girls really do speak Korean, but for the show, and so as not to upset or incite jealousy in the Korean fans, the girls were probably asked to speak English to add to the awkward vibe of their date with Seung Ho and G.O. For what reason? For entertainment purposes only. It may be a bit funny to watch, but just imagine, if ever one of us met Seung Ho, G.O., or even Bi, for that matter, the conversations (or, lack thereof) would probably be very similar.
When I was visiting Japan, some of my Japanese friends felt comfortable enough to relay a joke to me that a person who speaks two languages is bilingual, while a person who speaks one language is American. I think they shared that joke with me because I speak several languages. I am not the typical American. Anyway, we can’t be a laughing stock, ladies! We need to buckle down and exercise our brains with foreign language studies. Heck, even if it isn’t to meet a foreign guy, its just good for you! It helps to broaden your mind to the bigger picture and respect people who have taken on English as a second language (as it is NOT easy!).
I understand that Bi’s English is improving, and most K-pop idols are required to take English lessons. So there is some hope. But to really get to the heart of these men, (and mind you, I’m not just speaking of famous Korean men. I mean, everyday Korean men) a woman must take the time and initiative to learn his foreign language. Just think, you will have to meet his family and friends, but if you can’t speak comfortably with them (unless they all speak fluent English, which is doubtful), the relationship may be doomed to fail. But take heart! There are exceptions:
A very rare exception, however. I’d even suggest learning the language of your foreign object of desire even if he lives in the States and speaks fluent English himself. Just sayin’. I’ve read many comments and questions of women who are interested in Korean or foreign men, and wonder if the men are attracted to them despite their color or weight or something superficial. Ladies: Korean/Asian/Foreign men LOVE WOMEN. 🙂 Its true! It doesn’t matter what you look like! Its all about the language, baby. To learn their language is to level the playing field.