It seems this article is geared more toward Western women living in Japan, but it doesn’t hurt for us States ladies to read up on tips for nabbing a Japanese boyfriend.
Some highlights I thought to be interesting:
1) Yuki, an assistant manager at a popular club in Shibuya, says the reason most Japanese men appear uninterested in Western women is because they assume they will be rejected. They believe Western women only want to date Western men.
This is one that I am sure we have all heard. All I have to say to that is, maybe back in the day this was more common, but things are a-changin’. Asian men as a whole cannot be so blind as to not see all of the websites, blogs (yours truly included), and youtube video confessions dedicated to them. Asian men: we want YOU. We want you all. We are attracted to you. We want you to ask us out. Seriously. Its true.
2) “Probably 100 percent of Japanese men think that American and European men’s looks are better than ours,” he says.
I say, “AS IF!!”
3) “Men expect women to be more quiet; expressions and words are not necessary,” says 25-year-old Masa. “If you explain everything, it would be too much for him.”
Ok, I have seriously got to work on this one! ;P
4) One extreme tactic that young Japanese women often use is to act drunk — you don’t actually have to get intoxicated, though — so the man has to take care of her.
I’ve also heard this one more than once. I personally would prefer not to do this. I would show my vunerability in other ways, such as pretending to struggle to open a tight jar or pick up a heavy object, which should force the object of my desire to feel that he would need to “save the day” and give me assistance. I have learned through personal experience that a woman refusing assistance from a man and proving that she is just as strong (or stronger) than him is very unappealing to a man. He must feel needed. He doesn’t want to date another man. He wants a woman, which he considers to be soft and delicate. Now, I’m not saying that a woman should in reality, be totally dependent on a man, but a woman should make her man think she is 😉 See, there’s the difference.
So…happy Japanese boyfriend hunting!