I love reading blogs from people who have actually lived in Asian countries for an extended period of time. It offers an invaluable insight into that country and its people. Granted, it is through the eyes of a foreigner, so some observations can be skewed or even exaggerated. On the other hand, there are factual observations as well. When I visited Asia, I was blown away by some of the things I saw, heard, witnessed. I have great friends there so if something puzzled or disturbed me, I would simply ask one of them, and they would give me as straight forward an answer as they could. Sometimes, that answer didn’t satisfy my curiosity, and if it didn’t, I dropped the issue and would not probe further, so as not to insult them or their culture. The last thing I wanted was to appear as an ignorant foreigner.
I was particularly interested when I stumbled across this article that was posted a few years ago. In it, the blogger (an American man teaching English in South Korea for a year), talks to his Korean female friend about sex and how it fits into South Korean society. I won’t quote any of the article, but you can read it in full here.
Now, this isn’t a huge surprise because I’ve had similar conversations with my Asian friends, but it seems this particular friend of the blogger has stressed to the him that under no uncertain terms the majority of Korean women do not have sex before marriage, and the majority of Korean men lose their virginity (to a prostitute) when they enter the army. Verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry interesting. Now, please understand, I am not trying to paint this as weird, bizarre or abnormal. I think its actually quite wonderful. There are many unsavory things that can stem from sex before marriage, but because its so different from our culture, I find it incredibly fascinating. What do you think?
I wonder if this passes over to our Hallyu boys? Did So Ji Sub really lose his virginity when he entered into the military years ago? Is, gulp, gasp….Bi a virgin who has yet to be broken? Just a thought. Also, how are Korean youth able to control their sexual impulses? Once again, in comparison to the American culture, this is just unheard of. Kids as young as 12 and 13 start having sex in school and don’t stop, whether married or not. A great percentage of American youth have sexual partners that number likely in the double digits.
For us women who love these Korean men from afar (as there is soooo much we don’t know about the culture), how does it make us feel? Does it make them more attractive? Does it help their sex appeal when trying to enter the American entertainment market? Personally, I think dating a man that doesn’t expect sex from me until marriage is HEAVEN. How much better to get to know the person as best you can before doing the horizontal polka? Can’t wait to hear from you guys on this one!